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Executive Mothers, is Fear of Failure Holding You Back?

Do you find you've always got in the back of your mind what you need or want to do tin order to improve your life, but you keep putting off really giving it the headspace it deserves? Mostly it's our inclination to blame time constraints for this, however, while that is often valid, there are some other issues that might need addressing and ironically, your high-performance mindset might be the culprit!

As executive women who excel in our careers and manage the demands of family life, it's easy to overlook one critical area: our own personal development. Despite our accomplishments, many of us delay or avoid the introspective work needed to envision our best selves and set meaningful goals. Understanding what's holding us back is the first step towards creating a life we love. Here are the top reasons why we might avoid this crucial process and how to overcome them.

Fear of Failure

High-achieving women often set lofty expectations for themselves. This drive for excellence, while beneficial in our professional lives, can become a double-edged sword. The fear of not meeting our own high standards can be paralysing. We often avoid setting personal goals or creating a vision of our best selves because we are afraid of failing to achieve them.

How to Overcome It:

  • Embrace Imperfection: Understand that failure is a part of growth. Embrace the idea that not everything needs to be perfect. Mistakes are valuable learning experiences that can lead to greater success.

  • Set Realistic Goals: Break down your larger vision into smaller, manageable steps. Celebrate your progress along the way, rather than focusing solely on the end result.


Perfectionism is another common barrier. The desire to do everything flawlessly can prevent us from even starting the introspective work necessary for personal growth. We might feel that we need to have everything figured out before we can take the first step.

How to Overcome It:

  • Start Small: Begin with small, manageable tasks that move you towards your vision. The important thing is to start, even if it's not perfect.

  • Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Recognize that personal growth is a journey, not a destination. Allow yourself the grace to grow and evolve without the pressure of perfection.

Time Constraints

Balancing a demanding career with family responsibilities leaves little time for self-reflection. When we're constantly juggling work, home, and social obligations, it's easy to prioritise immediate tasks over long-term personal development.

How to Overcome It:

  • Schedule "Me Time": Carve out dedicated time for yourself, even if it's just a few minutes each day. Use this time for introspection, goal-setting, or simply relaxing and recharging.

  • Prioritise Personal Growth: Recognize that investing in yourself is crucial for your overall well-being. Make personal development a priority, just as you would any important work or family commitment.

As executive women, we have the skills, intelligence, and drive to excel in our careers and manage our families. By understanding and addressing the barriers to personal growth, we can unlock our full potential and create a life we truly love. Embrace the journey of introspection and goal-setting, and watch how it transforms not only your personal life but also enhances your professional and family life. Remember, the first step to achieving the life you desire starts with believing in your ability to grow, evolve, and thrive. Embrace this new chapter with confidence, celebrate your progress, and enjoy the journey towards your best self.


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